IT'S GREAT TRY IT

In the missionary position, make sure your partner's clitoris and upper vaginal area is well lubricated. (With her own juices, your saliva, Astroglide, wet, etc.)




Ask her to spread her vaginal lips with her hands, when she does this put your penis in up to the base and rest the Friction Zone one her clitoris.



Put your weight on her body, and reach down and grab her ass and spread the cheeks apart.



Now start sliding up and down on her (not in and out), your penis should remain in completely inside her all the way to base as you move. To do this you will need to grab her shoulders or the edge of the bed with both hands and push off with your toes as well.



As you do all of this make sure that the greatest friction between you and her is where the Friction Zone and her clitoris meet. This might all sound really complicated but it is actually very easy, and after a few minutes you and her wil

PENIS TOO SMALL

‘Normal size’ is a range that varies depending upon ethnicity and genetics. Size changes as a boy grows and matures into a man. As we all begin developing at different ages, size vs. age is really meaningless. Penis size consists of two components, length and circumference. Although most studies in this area vary slightly in the findings, the average erect penis length is 5.5 to 6.5 inches, and the average circumference (girth) is 4.5 to 5 inches. Also, a man’s limp size has very little indication to his erect size … a smaller penis tends to grow proportionally bigger than a large one does. You don’t specify whether your measurement is ‘relaxed’ or ‘erect’. Your penis is measured in a straight (or for some, arced) line on the topside of the erect penis, from where your belly meets the shaft to the tip of your penis.




The only proven way to marginally increase the length of your penis is surgery – and it is not recommended as the costs/risks do not generally outweigh the minor gains! Some guys try various massaging exercises such as Jelqing (on which we will be soon publishing an article) and some report limited success. Enlargement pills are the subject of outrageous and unproved claims by suppliers – they should be treated with extreme caution and (frankly) you would be better off keeping the money in your own pocket!



What should matter to you more than size is that your penis is fully functional and that you have researched and learned how to use it to please your partner. In other words, that you have become a knowledgeable, skilled & compassionate lover in all other aspects of making love. The majority of a woman's nerve endings are in the first couple inches of her vagina, so after that your smaller size isn’t much of a disadvantage. In fact most women will enjoy the sensation of a larger girth more than a longer length!

10 SEX TIPS FOR MAGICAL WEDDING

Take things slowly


Savor this moment. While you may be a little too tired to have the most technically excellent sex of your lives, this is likely to be among your most romantic and intimate sexual experiences.
Lower your expectations

So this may not be the most amazing sex you've ever had. So what? Try to just enjoy whatever happens.
Read some sex books

Who couldn't use a little advice from the experts? Some to try: The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man and Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men.
Talk to each other

Spend some time relaxing, talking about the wedding, and about your love for each other. Let things get romantic and sappy. The sex that follows will be intimate and amazing.
Expand your idea of the "wedding night"

If you're too tired for foreplay, that sex isn't going to be so great. Couldn't it be better to wait until the morning?
Flirt with each other during the wedding

It can be easy to spend the whole wedding greeting Aunt Sally and Cousin Bob, cutting the cake, and attending to a thousand other details. Don't forget to stop, stare into each other's eyes, share a few extra kisses, and flirt with each other. It will also help build the excitement for your alone time later.
Don't have sex with each other for a couple of weeks before the wedding

Many couples try this to make the wedding night sex fresh and new again. Others go even further by giving up sex months before the wedding so that they may be virgin-like on the wedding night.
Try something new

Perhaps there's been something you've been wanting to try? Your wedding night can be a fun night to experiment,
Wear something special

Wedding night lingerie can really help the mood. Pick something a little different than what you usually wear to excite your partner. Make sure you feel confident in it, as a confident lover is almost always a better lover.
Set the stage

Help yourselves get into the mood by setting the stage. Light some candles, bring some CDs and a radio, scatter rosepetals, or do whatever helps you get in the mood. And don't be afraid to kick friends and family out early. While they may tease you a little, they'll certainly understand!

NEW SEX POSITION

sex position Tip #1-The most obvious part of any sex position is the physical position of your bodies. There are thousands of positions we can put our body into. Standing, kneeling, curled up in a fetal position, sitting with our legs spread open, with our legs crossed, squatting.


Sex Position Tip #2 - Different Movements for Different Positions

A good sex position isn’t just about how your bodies are arranged, it is a sex position that allows for the kind of movement you like in your sex. There are times you might relish a slow, even thrusting. Other times you might be in the mood for rougher, pounding sex.

Sex Position Tip #3 - Adjusting the Angle of Penetration

Many people lack important basic information about male and female sexual anatomy. The angle of penetration can change the way a sex position feels for everyone involved. It may stimulate one part of the body more, it might be more comfortable.

Sex Position Tip #4 - Getting Your Arms and Legs into the Act

When it comes to sex positions, we can focus too much on the genital connection, and ignore the fact that there is a whole body available for sexual stimulation. Arms, legs, hands, feet, can all be important players in an awesome sex position.

Sex Position Tip #5 - Finding the Rhythm

All the clichés about the “motion of the ocean” are true. Regardless of what sex position you’re in, regardless of how perfectly sized your partner’s penis might be, if there’s no rhythm, or if you and your partner can’t get in synch, the penetration probably won’t do it for you.

Sex Position Tip #6 - Speed and Pacing

I have a friend who says she can always tell when a new sexual partner has learned his technique from watching too much porn. Those guys think that all sex is, is five minutes of mind-numbing (and genital numbing) pounding.

Of course these considerations aren’t really separate from each other. Take this example, You are penetrating your partner. They are lying down on their back, with their knees bent, genitals facing you. You are on your knees in front of them. If you lift up their legs and hook them over your shoulders, or if you just hold them in your arms, this changes both the angle of penetration, but it can also change the way you move.

WHAT IS SEX GOOD FOR ?

There are all sorts of ways to approach sex. Being a sex educator I tend to take the most direct route (which, ironically, doesn’t always get me there the fastest). But I learn just as much from people who get to sex from a completely different angle.




With over 750 Guides, About.com is a great place to find people talking about sex from diverse and often unexpected perspectives. In this irregular series I’m going to point to my favorite examples of sex on About.com.



This week’s post features two fellow health guides addressing some often touted and less often touted benefits of sex. When the sex you’re having isn’t so great, or it’s been so long since you’ve enjoyed sex that you forget what it can be, sometimes other motivators can help.

10 NEW PLACE TO HAVE SEX

If men weren't great explorers, we never would have found America, the Rockies, or scrambled porn on channel 99. So why should our entire sex life always take place in the same spot? Here's our list of the best places to fool around.




1. On the Washer

Your washing machine produces more vibration than any other appliance in your home. When your butt's on the lid, the motion is transmitted through your pelvis, essentially turning your member into a life-size vibrator.



2. In the Vault

To really add some spice to your sex life, make a quick stop at your bank. A safe-deposit-box room is quiet, the door is locked, and there's no camera. It's a great place to make a deposit and withdraw.



3. At Victoria's Secret

The best dressing rooms for sex are at Victoria's Secret. Sometimes they have love seats in there. Ask the saleswoman if you can go in to make sure you like what your girlfriend is trying on.



4. In a Beanbag Chair

You can contour it to any shape, and it'll support you in ways you're not accustomed to. Doggy-style sex works great when she's on her belly, draped over the amorphous blob (the chair, not you).



5. During Christmas at the In-Laws'

Bring the kids' gifts—wrapped, but in a bag. Say you haven't wrapped them yet and duck into a spare room.



6. A '57 Chevy

That's our nostalgic choice. For more practical men, it's the Ford Excursion, which measures a romp-friendly 227 inches long. As one salesman put it, "It'll hold 36 sheets of half-inch plywood between the wheel wells." Which is one way of thinking of it.



7. A Large Swiss Ball

The ball can actually help improve your depth of penetration, if you're in the right position. Sit on the ball and have her straddle you, facing away from you. Hold her hips for balance, and use the rocking motion of the ball to thrust in and out of her from behind. Do one set of at least 50 repetitions.



8. A National Park

If the missus likes to vocalize, pitch your tent in Alaska's Denali National Park, where 6 million untamed acres and a crowd-thinning permit system leave little risk of waking the neighbors. She'll gasp in delight when the midnight sun bathes the Big One (that's Mt. McKinley, buddy) in salmon pink light.



9. The Elevator

Try a freight elevator. It won't have an alarm, and you can stop it between floors for more privacy. Try this when you and your partner are helping a buddy move into a new apartment. Pack the front and sides of the elevator with boxes; leave the middle clear.



10. The Garage

At a friend's party, offer to fetch some more beer, then slip out the garage door. Nobody will think anything of you being away for 20 minutes, and you can always hide behind the car if you hear someone coming.

THE CONFORT ZONE

The comfort
commonly known as the missionary position, the comfort zone is not to be overlooked. Nor should any man ignore its tremendous potential for scorching hot sex. Yes, it can also make for predictable, boring sex a Puritan would admire, but only if you’re lacking passion and creativity. The comfort zone is one of the top sex positions women enjoy, and for good reason: the permutations for pleasure are virtually endless, and none of them involve discomfort or the skills of a gymnast. Take charge: Lay her down on the bed, spread her legs apart by sliding your knee between her thighs, place her wrists above her head and show her what you’re made of. Women love displays of dominance in the bedroom, and this one can be either subtle or overt, making it suitable for nearly every woman out there.

SEX POSITION TIPS

G-spot: some think it’s a myth; others are convinced that it’s not only real, but it’s also highly effective in triggering mind-blowing female orgasms. While the scientific community may still be divided on the G-spot’s existence, ask any woman who has had a G-spot orgasm, and she’ll tell you that it’s definitely there, and she wants you to stimulate it.Locating the G-spot can be an epic quest. It can be remarkably easy to find in some women, while in others it’s almost impossible. If you put your finger insider her vagina with your palm up while she’s on her back and then bring your fingers up in a “come hither” motion, you should be somewhere close to the G-spot. Manual stimulation of the G-spot may be the easiest way to explore its possibilities, but you can also incorporate it into intercourse. If you choose the right positions, you’ll have a greater chance of hitting her G-spot.
From behindRear-entry positions are some of the most reliable when it comes to stimulating the G-spot during intercourse. You can try it doggy style or in the spooning position (both of you lying on your sides, facing the same way as you enter her from behind) for a more relaxed option. In order to have the greatest chance of success with a rear-entry position, the penis should rub against the front wall of the vagina. When she’s on all fours, she should arch her back slightly and not put her head down on the bed. You can try lifting her hips a little and thrusting in a downward motion to perfect this G-spot position.
She’s on topMany women prefer positions in which they are on top. This probably has a lot to do with the fact that when she’s on top, she’s in control. Woman-on-top positions, like cowgirl and its variations, are great for hitting the G-spot because the woman can angle her hips just right, allowing her to find the arrangement that feels best to her. She can try leaning forward or back while adjusting the speed and pressure applied to the G-spot.
The right rotationRotated Woman is a tantric sex position that is excellent for stimulating the G-spot. Start by lying flat on your back with her straddling you, facing away. Then she should carefully lean down until she can grab your ankles and is lying on top of you. Once in position, she can move up and down or circle her hips in a figure-8 pattern. The angle makes her vagina tighten up, so the rubbing of the penis provides intense G-spot pleasure. She may also get some clitoral stimulation in this position, so she can have the best of both worlds.
Heels over headPositions in which her feet are on your chest or shoulders are also great G-spot positions. In tantra, this position is referred to as The Flower Press. Start off like you would if you were using the missionary position, then once you have penetrated her, she should lift her legs up and back until they are pressed against your chest or over your shoulders. You can lean against her thighs for support while she grabs your hips and brings you closer for maximum penetration. This G-spot position works because of the angle of the penis as it enters and the depth it can reach.

WHAT DO MEN WANT

Most men are alike. When some aren’t, they are considered feminine, and yet there are others who first fall in the category of being great and then to the not-so-great category. Whatever do I mean? Well lets start from the beginning. Most men believe that they are the most important species that we women are dealing with. Sure they may be great with numbers, especially with telephone numbers of some great leggy females, they are still their stages of infancy when it comes to feelings. Most men are visually stimulated, they have to see everything to understand and believe. From a really great pair of legs to an adequately pleasing bosom. A woman needs to be stroked and felt, while a man has already been stroked by his mere vision. He doesn’t need to purr, her just speaks his mind and sees it. This is perhaps the reason why men seem to get aroused much faster than women would. Most men love to be ahead of everything, be it career or sex. If they cannot find themselves to get on to the top of it all, they lose interest. Most of the times, a man challenges himself into believing that he can be the best lover and although he may not vibe with the feelings of the heart, he does pursue the issue only because he knows that he can get his woman laid, in this manner. Another shortcoming that he might face as compared to women is that men cannot understand images. They are trained in the physical aspects of life, which may range from making tree houses to even making their own homes. They cannot imagine that most of the planning can be done in advance so as to make their own lives easier a little later. Women are genetically inclined to literary arts and poetry, which makes them the "feeling" people. People who can understand, feel and more importantly visualize. It is no wonder then that most women can partake in the mass appreciation of pornographic stories and pictures. Men only use these as objects to get a massive turn on, again a visual aspect and not related to imagery. Most men prefer to have the light on, perhaps a little dim too as the thrill to watch a woman naked is perhaps unmatched to any other in the world. Women almost always need to have the light off. Sex …. A physical need! Sex is always a physical game for most men. During my survey of wild sex I encountered ninety four percent of men seeking sex in the animated form. For them sex need not prescribe to the notion of being loved. Yes love is a part of it, not the heart of it. Sex was always a beast-like affair. One that involved huge fight-like encounter, with both partners wanting for more. This is so because for them, sex is only sex and nothing more. Its more like a pornographic movie, the more the better. Most of them understand the huge importance of drugs used to virtually increase sexual stimulation that can last for hours together, without any breaks. One man was hugely candid about saying that sex was more of a release of tension, of tensed nerves as it were, so the more release the better. The frequency of sex also mattered. They did not quite understand the need for arousal or foreplay, as their typical need for foreplay usually spans around for 5-7 minutes, after which the real action needed to be turned on, as if a switch for releasing the mass of tension locked behind the sexual organs. Another gentle man made it rather clear that it was most important for men to experience the first bout of sex with a virgin. The blood dripping out of a woman’s vagina was an experience he felt should be appreciated and tasted by all. The colour red was so sexually stimulating he noted that even though he might for a time believe that it might be painful for the lady, its lure was unmatched to any thing else in the world. Phew, quite ravenous, what say?

APOLOGY LETTER FOR CHEATING

There’s so many times I’ve let you down So many times I’ve played around I tell you now, they don’t mean a thing Every place I go, Ill think of you Every song I sing, Ill sing for you Honesty is the cornerstone of every relationship. Dealing with a cheating spouse is perhaps one of the most traumatic experiences in life. Imagine the one person who is the cynosure of your attention, your object of affection betrays you and cheats on you - the feeling is unimaginable. There is no reason in this world, which can justify an act of infidelity and no justification sane enough to stop the hurt and pain caused. However, if you have committed an act of infidelity – be it a long kept secret affair or a stupid one-night stand – you should know that you owe your partner a BIG apology! RelatioNSHIP are a delicate affair and I cannot guarantee that an apology letter will ensure that your relationship would be mended, but you need to have the courtesy to apologize from your heart and let your partner know that you regret your actions! Here are some do's and don’ts to keep in mind while writing an apology letter for cheating. Apology Letter for Cheating - Tips for Writing an Apology Letter
Writing an apology letter for cheating can be uncomfortable, but it is the price that you have to pay for cheating in the first place.
Come out clean with the facts. Open your heart and write your feelings without any apprehensions.
Begin with a genuine and heart felt ‘sorry’.
Apologize from the heart and keep the content real. Avoid excessively dramatic and flowery language.
Do not include quotes or poems in the letter. Unless you are creative enough to compose a good one yourself!
Let your partner know that you are genuinely regretting your actions. Keep on stressing how much you regret your actions.
Tell your partner that the encounter didn’t mean anything at all to you and accept that you made a mistake.
Do not get negative or bitter about your partner while explaining her/him about the reasons, which led to cheating.
Do not mention unnecessary details about your infidel encounter which will aggravate your spouse! There is nothing that will make your spouse angrier than reading about the details of your affair.
Lastly try and express what your relationship means to you and that you are willing to do anything to make it work.

a women not protected from hiv/aids by male circusision

circumstances f men living with HIV does not prevent transmission to their female partners, according to new research. The study in Uganda was stopped early after 18 percent of the women with newly-circumcised partners became infected with HIV, compared to 12 percent of women with uncircumcised partners.
The authors of the study, published in today’s Lancet, wrote:
“We were disappointed that the trial did not show protection from HIV infection in women as was expected from observational studies”.
The study suggests that the risk of HIV transmission from men to women in the six weeks after circumcision could be increased due to unhealed wounds from the procedure.
Circumcision has already been found to significantly reduce the risk of HIV from women to men, and is promoted as part of HIV prevention by the likes of UNAIDS and WHO.
Authors of the Ugandan study still support circumcision as a preventative measure for men, but emphasise the need to delay sexual intercourse until the wound has fully healed. Condoms, counselling and education should also be provided along with circumcision procedures. The study concludes that ultimately women will benefit from male circumcision initiatives as the chances that a male partner will have HIV will be reduced.

a women not protected from hiv/aids by male circusision

circumstances f men living with HIV does not prevent transmission to their female partners, according to new research. The study in Uganda was stopped early after 18 percent of the women with newly-circumcised partners became infected with HIV, compared to 12 percent of women with uncircumcised partners.
The authors of the study, published in today’s Lancet, wrote:
“We were disappointed that the trial did not show protection from HIV infection in women as was expected from observational studies”.
The study suggests that the risk of HIV transmission from men to women in the six weeks after circumcision could be increased due to unhealed wounds from the procedure.
Circumcision has already been found to significantly reduce the risk of HIV from women to men, and is promoted as part of HIV prevention by the likes of UNAIDS and WHO.
Authors of the Ugandan study still support circumcision as a preventative measure for men, but emphasise the need to delay sexual intercourse until the wound has fully healed. Condoms, counselling and education should also be provided along with circumcision procedures. The study concludes that ultimately women will benefit from male circumcision initiatives as the chances that a male partner will have HIV will be reduced.

HOW TO DATE A WOMAN

All of these issues come down to one thing: you don't have any "game" going for yourself. You're trying to "shotgun" your approach rather than use a direct, specific plan. Scattered/fractured plans are never a good idea. Here's a better one:
First, don't focus on this one girl. Yes, I know you are claiming that you're not, but the fact is - you are. Go out and find at least 2 or 3 other women and start dating them. These don't have to be expensive dates, and in fact, if you do this right, they will pay for much of them for you! They don't have to be 10's or even marrying material either. You're just trying to build your dating skills. Of course, once you get to know a woman she may actually climb that ladder on her own; going from a 6 to a 7 or higher!
Second, ignore that boyfriend remark from girl #1. Just invite her out for coffee or a drink "to get to know her better". It's very simple, non-threatening, and if she accepts, you're in. If not, you're working on 2-3 other women anyway! NEXT!
Third, (this probably should have been first), get a real game plan together. Decide what your long-term goals are, but not who's going to fill them. Once you get your plan together, work on your skills. There are is a ton of great information out there, (Dating-Insider and my book and website are probably the best), so get started on your education.

7 WAYS TO MAKE LOVE WITH YOUR MAN'S MIND

1. Give him that sexy look from time to time. When you look at him, make him feel that you want to make love to him. It is all in the eyes. For example, when he is getting dressed in the morning and you are in bed, let him know that you are looking at him. Let your eyes make him feel that he is the hottest guy you know.
2. When you talk to him make let him know that you love him with all your heart. Speak kind and caring words to him -- they go a long way to open a man 's heart so that he can shower you with passionate love.
3. Support his passions. When you make your man feel that you "have his back", he will go to the ends of the earth to do anything for you. He will fall in love with all his heart and soul.
4. Make him feel needed. Invite him to participate in important decision that will affect your life. When you make him feel that he is an indispensable part of your life, he feels appreciated, and he will appreciate and love you in return.
5. Be affectionate. Touch him, kiss him, and hug him daily. The mind and body are connected. When you do things that make his body feel good, his mind will react positively toward you.
6. Always be ready to forgive and forget. When he does something that hurts you and he apologizes to you, don't hold his misdeeds against him. And most importantly don't shove it in his face at the slightest provocation. When you forgive him, he will love you even more.
7. Do not nag him. Your man will never do all things you want him to do when you want him to do them. So with that in mind, go easy on him when he forgets to do some things you asked him to do. When you go easy on him, he finds it much easier to overlook some of your imperfections and love you just the way you are.
Making love to a man 's mind is all about how you treat him from the time you get up until the time you go to bed. When you make love to his mind daily, he will bend over backwards to love you with all his heart and soul.

. Decide what type of project you would like to do: Necklaces, bracelets, headbands, lanyards, belts, etc. The type of wire or cord and the type of beads depend on what you would like to do. Are your projects going to be intricate and costly, or inexpensive and simple? Are you going to give these works of art away, sell them, or are they a self-project? Are your projects going to be just beads, or would you like to incorporate charms, pendants, bead holders, knots, ect.?

Craft stores are a very good place to find an assortment of beads. You might even be able to recycle old jewelry, or stage jewelry if you want to. Get beads that you like the most and that you feel will be easiest and most fun to work with; Also make sure you get enough for your purposes so that you don't run out of beads in the middle of a wonderful creation!!!

What would you like to string your beads on? Make sure that whatever you choose to string your beads or charms on can fit through the bead/charm holes:-String/Twine/Thread (doubled or single line)-Wire (thin or thick)-Hemp-Clear plastic line or fishing line-Ribbons (silk, fiber, synthetic, ect.)-Stretchy cord (good for bracelets!!!)-Other materials

When you finish each project, make sure you secure the ends so that the beads don't slip off. You could even tie it around a bead and secure the ends that way. A tiny spot of superglue on the knot does wonders. You could also incorporate clasps, lobster-claw clasps, etc.
Enjoy your beautiful jewelry works.

[edit] Tips
If you want the original look, get smaller beads. Seed beads were often used; look for sizes 6/0, 10/0 and 11/0. If using round beads, look for size 4mm.
Multiple long strings of beads are one of the authentic looks; another is the choker-collar necklace strung on elastic thread.
Real hippies would use beads made of any material but preferred natural substances such as wood, glass or clay.
Use bigger, thicker beads for a "Modern" look.
Make a pattern BEFORE you start beading if you want to do a specific design.
Or, if you like, improvise.
What mood or emotion would you like to incorporate in your love beads, if any?
A related idea was "energy beads", which had colors associated with your astrological sign.
Which projects you decide to do depend on how much time would you like to spend on your projects.
If you don't want to plan and just be spontaneous with your creativity, that's perfectly o.k. too!

SEXUAL ADDICTION

Sexual addiction is rapidly becoming recognized as a major social problem with similarities well known to alcohol and drug addiction or compulsive gambling. The sexually addicted individual becomes addicted to the neuro-chemical changes that take place in the body during sexual behavior, much as a drug addict becomes hooked on the effects of ‘shooting’ heroin. This is not to say that the expression of one as a sexual being, an intensely pleasurable life-enhancing experience for the majority of the population, is an inherently addictive reality. Contrary to enjoying sex as a self-affirming source of physical pleasure, the sex addict has learned to rely on sex for comfort from pain, for nurturing or relief from stress; this is comparable to the alcoholic's purposeful use of alcohol.
The beginnings of sexual addiction are usually rooted in adolescence or childhood. For instance, the child often grows up in a chaotic, hostile or neglectful home; or the family may have been very normal otherwise, but the child grows up emotionally starved for love because affection is rarely expressed. The child may turn repeatedly to masturbation to escape the parents' violent arguments, for instance, or to make up for an unconscious lack of attention or affection. Masturbation should be a normal and natural part of childhood, but for the lonely, abused or rejected child it can become a regular sedative to hide the inner pain. Gradually sex becomes a replacement for other things, a convenient act to turn to in times of any kind of need, from escaping boredom to feeling anxious, to being able to go to sleep at night.
Alternately, the child may be introduced to sex in inappropriate ways. Instead of the normal sexual experimentation that often takes place out of curiosity between similar aged children during growing up, some children are subjected to pedophilia (an adult engaging in sexual activity with a child). Or the person introducing the child to sexual experiences may be another child who is five or more years older (i.e. an older cousin, babysitter, etc.), where the sexual experience doesn't feel mutual. In these experiences there often is a combination of natural curiosity, newfound pleasurable feelings and the feelings of fear or shame. The fear and shame may be increased by threats made by the older person to gain the child's cooperation and to prevent the child from telling anyone about it.
A pattern may be established of seeking out similar experiences throughout the person's life where there is a combination of sexual pleasure and fear or shame. When the child grows up he may be turned on by sex in high-risk situations that unconsciously generate fear, or in secretive circumstances that feed on shame.

Some Characteristics of Sex Addiction
The sexual behavior is shameful. The addict feels shame about what he or she is doing, or more accurately about what he or she has done, usually immediately after engaging in sex acts that violate some of the person's standards. Or the shame may be denied by calling it normal for ‘a real man’ - or by focusing on others, "She wanted it.” Thus a married man may feel remorse after having sex with his best friend's wife, rationalize that his friend wasn't sexually satisfying her and avoid going to bed with his own wife afterward, all in a vain attempt to deny there is a problem or that he has done anything wrong.
The sexual behavior is secret. The sex addict more and more comes to live a double life – perhaps well known, respected and admired in more visible life, but secretly engaging regularly in sexual acts that might be shocking to those who know and love them. So (for example) a sexually addicted minister could be revered on Sunday morning for preaching on the sinfulness of adultery and fornication, and then engage in those behaviors himself at a modeling studio or adult bookstore on Monday afternoon. Or a man might tell his relationship partner that he is going to visit a friend but goes to a park to cruise for anonymous sex instead.
The sexual behavior is abusive. It violates someone else's choice or exceeds their understanding. For example, a man who manipulates or coerces his date into being sexual with him, or the woman in a partially unbuttoned blouse who bends down toward an unsuspecting male co-worker and "accidentally" exposes her breast, or the man who seeks out crowded shopping malls so he can meander among the throng to ‘cop a feel’. Much worse are adult men and women who manipulate the trust of children, and abuse their power over them by tricking them into performing sexual acts with them. The sex may also be abusive to the sex addict, such as masturbating to the point of physical injury or cutting or pinching oneself for sexual arousal.

Relationships are built around friendship, commitment and trust. However, an "extra-marital/relationship" liaison (a.k.a. cheating or "a having a bit on the side") is an option that many people have at least considered during the course of any relationship. The idea of cheating presents something enticing - it offers excitement and trouble all at the same time. Unfortunately for many, getting caught is almost inevitable and can become the beginning-of-the-end for the relationship.

Rule 1: Keep track of your lies
Nothing will ruin the "art" of cheating more than not knowing which lies go with which situation. Forgetting that you were supposed to go and get milk, and instead come back with a sweat-soaked shirt and an excuse you used last week, leaves your spouse to think you were getting "other" sources of protein.
Bachelors Degree Tip: Have your deceptions set up before you go on your booty call.
Masters Degree Tip: Have props to support your lies, it is the best way to turn your suspicious partner into an apologetic fool.

Rule 2: Keep your lies to a minimum
The most successful cheaters are always on top of their devious adventures because they keep them as simple as possible. Telling your significant other that you need to help your manager plan next quarter's market analysis provides you with that window of opportunity for that weekend hook-up. However, DO NOT add lies on top of lies. Telling your spouse that you are working on the company's market analysis every Saturday afternoon followed by extra public relations work in the evening will have him or her asking questions about everything you did that day. Adding lies on top of lies will get you in trouble - and it will leave you with no one to blame but yourself!
Bachelors Degree Tip: Use simple lies that cannot be verified.
Masters Degree Tip: Preferably get around their questions without even having to tell an out-and-out lie... just try and bend the truth a little.

Rule 3: Do NOT tell your friends
Even though they will always say, "I won't tell anyone", putting a friend in the position to screw up your relationship is the worst thing you could do. Anybody who has juicy gossip is going to fumble the ball sooner or later. After they have had a drink or two – read “sooner” rather than "later"!

Rule 4: Do NOT Cheat with your partner's friend
This one should be a no-brainer to even the most dedicated cheater! This will almost certainly ruin their friendship – and will very likely ruin ALL your relationships. This is a very difficult situation to hide and is simply JUST NOT WORTH IT!!

Rule 5: Keep yourself clean
Always be prepared to have the cleaning products needed to keep you from getting caught. A quick shower after an entanglement is highly recommended. Perfume or cologne should be used to disguise any smell, but try not to overdo it; smelling like you just fell in a vat of Chanel can be more of a give-away than a help. As well, make sure to check for male/female hair on your clothes. Finally, do not keep your booty call's underwear in your glove compartment … or you are just asking to get caught.

TO DO ARCH SEX POSITION

To do the Arch position, the receiver gets into a partial bridge position with their shoulders resting on the bed while their partner enters from a kneeling position. The Arch is often overlooked because of its perceived simplicity, but thanks to the fantastic penetration angle this sex position offers, it should be a regular part of everyone's routine. That being said, you'll want to make sure to use a pillow under the receiver's head to reduce the strain and risk of injury to their neck.

THE ROLE OF PARENTS AND MUSLIMS IN SEX EDUCATION

The Role Of Parents and Muslim Organisations For their failures
(i.e. teenage pregnancy), the American educators are putting the blame, as usual, on the parents. In fact in Wisconsin and many other states the grandparents of a baby born to a teenager are responsible for the financial support of the child. Remember parents are not needed if their teenage daughter needs contraceptives or abortion. Faced with such hypocrisy, the parents job is to instill in their teenagers mind what is not taught in sex education classes i.e. reason not to engage in sex, reason not to get pregnant etc. At the same time, they should divert their energies to some productive activities like community work, sports, character growth, or Sunday schools. Another role of parents is to help their children make the right decisions. In Islam anything which leads to wrong is also wrong. Therefore parents should control the music children are listening, the TV program they are watching, the magazines they are reading, and the dress (which may provoke the desire in the opposite sex) they are wearing. While group social activity should be permitted within supervision, dating should not be allowed. When American teenagers start dating, sex is on their mind.In fact 25% of college freshman boys during a survey responded by saying that if they have paid for the food, and the girl does not go all the way, they have a right to force her to have sex. Many of the rapes occur at the end of the date and are not reported. Anything which breaks down sexual inhibition and loss of self control i.e. alcohol, drug, petting or just being together for two members of the opposite sex in a secluded place should not be allowed for Muslim teenagers. Kissing and petting is preparing the body for sex. The body can be brought to a point of no return.In summary, the Muslim parents should teach their children that they are different from non-Muslims in their value system and way of life. Having a feeling and love in your heart for someone else of the opposite sex is different and beyond check, while expression of the same through sex is entirely different and should be under control. Muslim children should be told that they don't drink alcohol, eat pork, take drugs, and they don't have to engage in pre-marital sex either. I am not proposing that all Muslim youth be married at age 16. But I must say that youth should accept the biological instinct and make decisions which will help a more satisfied life devoted to the career rather than spending time in chasing (or dreaming about) the opposite sex. Parents should help their sons and daughters in selection of their mate using Islamic practice as a criteria and not the race, color or wealth. They should encourage them to know each other in a supervised setting.
To provide a platform for boys and girls to see and know each other without any intimacy.
Offer premarital educational courses to boys and girls over 18, separately to prepare them for the role of father and husband and of mother and wife.
The father has a special role, mentioned by Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) "one who is given by God, a child, should give it a beautiful name, should give him or her education, and training and when he or she attains puberty, she should see to it that he or she is married. If the father does not arrange their marriage after puberty, and the boy or girl is involved in sin, the responsibility of that sin will lie with the father".[Reported in Mishkat, page 271]. Islamic sex education should be taught at home, starting at an early age. Before giving education about the anatomy and physiology, the belief in the Creator should be well established. As Destoevsky puts it "without God everything, is possible" meaning that the lack of belief or awareness of God gives an okay for wrong doing".The father should teach the son and mother should teach her daughter. In the absence of a willing parent, the next best choice should be a Muslim male teacher (preferably a physician) for boys and a Muslim female teacher (a nurse or physician) for a girl at the Sunday Islamic school.

SLIDE ANDF GLIDE TECNIQUES

Slide and Glide Technique
This technique relies on stimulating your partners clitoris with the friction and pressure from your upper pubic region (right above your pubic bone) which we will call the friction zone.
The technique is done in the missionary position (the most popular position - you on top). Make sure your partner is well lubricated, and we would recommend starting with the tease and please technique until you are almost all the way in and then start to do this technique.
The Technique*************
In the missionary position, make sure your partner's clitoris and upper vaginal area is well lubricated. (With her own juices, your saliva, Astroglide, wet, etc.)
Ask her to spread her vaginal lips with her hands, when she does this put your penis in up to the base and rest the Friction Zone one her clitoris.
Put your weight on her body, and reach down and grab her ass and spread the cheeks apart.
Now start sliding up and down on her (not in and out), your penis should remain in completely inside her all the way to base as you move. To do this you will need to grab her shoulders or the edge of the bed with both hands and push off with your toes as well.
As you do all of this make sure that the greatest friction between you and her is where the Friction Zone and her clitoris meet. This might all sound really complicated but it is actually very easy, and after a few minutes you and her will be gliding back and forth on a sweet layer of sweat.

HOW TO SCREW HER GOOD

How To Screw Her Good -
A Few More Tips
Always tease a bit and make sure that your lover is fully aroused and lubricated before penetration.
Make sure your lover is highly aroused and almost coming before full penetration.
Thrust at different angles in the same position to stimulate all the walls of the vagina. Try riding high and low, left and right in the same position to stimulate all of her vaginal walls.
Try different positions, variety is the spice of life.
Thrust hard, soft and teasingly.
Once in a while pull out and re-enter
Try thrust in a winding circular motion going in and coming out.
Put your penis all the way in and slide up and down and left and right and in circles clockwise and counter-clockwise, without moving your penis in and out.

ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF SEXUALLITY

Islamic Concept Of Sexuality

Islam recognizes the power of sexual need, and the subject is discussed in Quran and the saying of Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) in a serious manner, in context with the marital life and family life . Islam does not consider women (or men) an object of sexual pleasure but with a legal frame work of relationship fulfilling the will of God. While the sex outside marriage is a punishable sin, sex with one's spouse is an act of worship. The Islamic laws regarding sex are fixed and do not change with peer pressure or changing values of society. Virginity at the time of marriage is considered a virtue in Islamic morality, but a disadvantage in the West. No wonder less than 10% of American brides are virgin.


Mention Of Creation, Reproduction And Sex In The Quran

1. "Did We not create you from a sticky fluid?, Which We laid up in a safe abode, for a known term. Thus We arranged, how excellent is Our arrangement".

2. "So let man consider from what he is created. From a gushing fluid that issues between the lion and the ribs.

3. "Verily We created man from a product of wet earth, then placed him in a drop in a safe lodging, then We fashioned the clot into a little lump, then We fashioned the lump into bones, then We clothed the bones with flesh, and then produced it as another creation. So blessed be Allah, the best of creators". Commentary: The seminal fluid has all the ingredients (protein, carbohydrate, minerals) as earth has. The order of embryology given 1400 years ago when no microscope, X-ray of ultrasound were available is the same as discovered now. Western scientists recognized sperm in 17th century and thought it to be a miniature pre-formed man".

4. "Your women are a tilth for you, so enjoy your tilth the way you wish, and make an introduction to yourself.

Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) said:
1. "When one of you have sex with your wife it is a rewardable act of charity". The companions were surprised and asked, "but we do it out of our desire, how can it be counted as a charity?". The Prophet replied "if you had done with a forbidden women, it would have been counted as a sin, but if you do it in legitimacy it is counted as a charity?".

2. "Let not the one of you fall upon his wife like a beast falls. It is more appropriate to send a message before the act" .

3. "Do not divulge secrets of your sex with your wife to another person, nor describe her physical feature to anyone".


Concept of Adultery (Fornication or Zina) in Islam

Allah says in Quran:
1."Do not come near to adultery. Surely it is a shameful deed and Evil, opening roads to another evils ".

2. "Say: Verily, my Lord has prohibited the shameful deeds, be it open or secret, sins and trespasses against the truth and reasons" .

3. "Women impure are for men impure, and men impure are for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity".

Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) has said on many places against adultery as one of the three major sins. However the most interesting story is that of a younger man, who came to him and asked his permission for fornication, since he could not control himself. The Prophet dealth with him with reasoning and asked him if he will approve of someone else doing illegal sex with his mother, sister, daughter or wife. Each time the man said 'no' then the Prophet replied that the woman with whom you plan to have sex could also be somebody's mother, sister, daughter or wife. The man understood and repented. The Prophet prayed for his forgiveness.

Adultery is a crime not against one person but against the whole society. It is a violation of marital contract. 50% of all first time marriages in this country result in divorce in 2 years, and the main reason for divorce is extra- marital affairs of either husband or wife. Adultery which includes both pre- marital and extramarital sex is an epidemic in this society. Nobody seems to listen to the Bible which says frequently "Thou shalt not do adultery". The Quranic approach "Do not approach adultery" is more sensible. What it means that not only illegal sex is prohibited, but anything which leads to illegal sex is also illegal. These things include dating, free mixing of sex, provocative dress, nudity, obscenity and pornography. The dress code both for men and women is to protect them from temptation and desires by onlookers who may lose self control and fall into sin.


"Say to the believing men, that they should lower their gaze
and guard their modesty; that will make for greater purity,
and God is well acquainted with all they do". "And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard the

WHAT IS SEX EDUCATION AND WHO SHOULD GIVE IT?

What Is Sex Education And Who Should Give It?
Is sex education about knowing the anatomy and physiology of human body, or about the act of sex, or about reproduction and family life, or about prevention of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy? Is giving sex education equal to giving permission of engaging in sex? One sex educator at my son's school told the parents "I am not planning to tell your children whether or not they should not engage in sex, or how to do it but in case they decide to do it they should know how to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy". At present the sex education is incomplete as it does not cover the morality associated with sex, sexual dysfunctions and deviations and the institution of marriage.One of the basic questions is , do children need sex education? Do you teach a duck how to swim or just put it in water and let it swim. After all, for thousands of years men and women are having sex without any formal education. In may traditional civilizations, sex education starts after the marriage with trial and error. Some couples learn it faster than others and do it better than others, due to difference in sexual perception and expression of one partner. In my opinion having dozen children is not necessarily a proof of love. An appropriate and healthy sex education is crucial to the fulfillment of a happy marriage.With regards to the questions who should impart sex education, I believe everyone has to play his or her role. The parent as a whole have to assume a more responsible role; especially the father has a duty to be able to answer his son's questions and the mother to her daughter's. We can hardly influence the sex education at school or by the media which I call "VD- AIDS And Teenage Pregnancy Education", but we can supplement that with some ethical and moral dimension and add family love and responsibility. Apart from these sources, some role can be played by Sunday school teachers, the family physician, the pediatrician and the clergy. Within a family the elder sister has a duty towards the younger one and the elder brother has for the younger one.
Sex Education In American SchoolsIn every American school,
public or private, sex education is being given from grade 2 to 12. The projected 1990 cost to the nation will be $2 Billion per year. Teachers are told to give the technical aspects of sex education without telling the students about moral values or how to make the right decisions. After describing the male and female anatomy, and reproduction, the main emphasis is on the prevention of venereal diseases and teenage pregnancy. With the rise of AIDS, the focus is on "Safe Sex" which means having condoms available each time you decide to have sex with someone you don't know. With the help of our tax dollars, about 76 schools in the country have started dispensing free condoms and contraceptives to those who go to school health clinics. Very soon, I can foresee there will be vending machine in the school hallways and "children" could get one condom each time they need to engage in sex. The role of parents is minimized by American sex educators and sometimes ridiculed. In one of the sex education movies I was made to watch as a parent at my son's school "Am I Normal?", the young boy whenever he asks a question about sex to his father, the father (is shown as a bum and a slob) shuns him away and diverts the topic. Finally the boy learns it from a stranger, and then is shown going into a movie theater with his girlfriend.The secular sex education devoid of morality promoted by educators like Dr. Sol Gordon is in many ways unacceptable to our value system. The examples of Dr. Gordon's beliefs are:a. Nudity in homes (in shower or bedroom) is good and a healthy way to introduce sexuality to smaller (under 5) children, giving them opportunity to ask questions. In the same book he also states that 75% of all child molestations and incests (500,000 per year) occur by a close relative (parent, step parent or another family member) in a familiar surrounding.b. A child's playing with genitals of another child is a "naive exploration", is permissible and not a reason for scolding or punishment. He is also aware that boys as young as 12 have raped girls as young as 8. He does not tell us when this "naive exploration" becomes a sex act.c. "Children caught reading 'dirty' magazines should not be made to feel quilty, but parents should use it as a chance to get some useful points across him or her about sexual attitudes, values and sex exploitation." Like charity, pornography, should start at home !!d. " If your daughter or son is already sexually active, instead of telling them to stop it, the parents moral duty is to protect their health and career by providing them information and means for contraception and avoiding VD". Educators like Dr. Gordon do not believe that giving sexual information means giving the go ahead signal for sex. I just wonder as to why some folks after being, told the shape, color, smell and taste of a new fruit, and pleasure derived form eating it, would not like to try it? These educators say that even if your child does not ask any questions about sex, parents should initiate the discussion using i.e. a neighbor's pregnancy, a pet's behavior, advertisements, popular music or a TV show. I wonder why these educators are obsessed with loading children with sexual information whether they want it or not.
The More They Know It - The More They Do It.
The sex education in American schools has not helped decrease in the teenager the incidence of VD or teenage pregnancy. This is because it has not changed their sex habits. According to Marion Wright Elderman President of Childrens Defense Fund in a recent report, "out of every 20 teens, 10 are sexually active but only 4 use contraception, 2 get pregnant and one gives birth. In 1982, John Hokins study found one out of every five 15 year olds, and three 16 year olds are sexually active . The incidence increased to 43% in 17 year olds, 46% of 16 year olds, 29% of 15 year olds were sexually active . Now it is estimated that about 80% girls entering college had sexual intercourse at least once. Going to church does not help either. Some 1400 teenagers, mostly white, attending conservative Evangelical Church were sent questions about their sex life. 26% of 16 year olds, 35% of 17 year olds, and 43% of 18 year olds said they had sexual intercourse at least once. 33% that responded also said sex outside of marriage was morally acceptable.
Hazards of Early SexThe health hazards of early sex include sexual trauma,
increase in incidence of cervical cancer, sexually transmitted diseases and teenage pregnancy.A variety of injuries are possible and do happen when sex organs are not ready for sex in terms of full maturation. Some of these injuries have a long lasting effect." Cervical cancer has been thought to be related to sex at an early age and with multiple partners. Dr. Nelson and his associates in his article of epidemiology of cervical cancer calls it a sexual transmitted disease."
Teenage PregnancyAbout one million or more teenage girls become pregnant every year,
80% of them are unmarried. Out of this I million, about 500,000 decide to keep their baby, and 450,000 are aborted (or ? murdered), 100,000 decide to deliver and give the baby for adoption. In 1950 the incidence of birth from unmarried teenagers was only 13.98%, but in 1985 it increased to 59%. It is a myth that teenage pregnancy is a problem of black and poor. To the contrary 2 out of 3 teens getting pregnant now are white, suburban and above the poverty income level. The pregnancy rate (without marriage) in 54,000 listed Navy women is 40% compared to 17% to general population. What is the life of those who have teenage pregnancy? Only 50% complete high school, more than 50% of them are on welfare. They themselves become child abusers, and their children when grown up have 82% incidence of teenage pregnancy. 8.6 billion dollars are spent every year for the financial support and health care of teenage mothers.The sexual revolution of 60's has affected another dimension of health care. In 1985 alone , 10 million cases of chlamydia, 2 million gonorrhea, 1 million venereal warts, 0.5 million genital herpes and 90,000 syphilis cases were diagnosed." The plague of AIDS" is adding a new twist to our fears. About 52,000 cases have been diagnosed in the USA alone and 50% of them have already died. The disease is growing at a rate of one case every 14 minutes," and so far there is no good treatment. Father Bruce Ritter of New York, who operates shelters for runaway children, says the biggest threat to the Nation's 1 million runaway is the threat of AIDS now.There are many reasons children get involved in sex". Most common being the peer pressure. Their common response is "since everybody is doing it". One of the reasons is their desire for sexual competence with adults and a way to get ahead. Another common reason is their lack of self esteem which they want to acquire and improve by becoming a father or mother. Sometimes it is due to lack of other alternatives to divert their sexual energies. It could also be due to lack of love and appreciation at home. Detacthment from home can lead to attachment elsewhere. The sexual pressure on them is everywhere, at school from their peers, from the TV where about 20,000 sexual scenes are broadcasted annually in advertisement, soap operas, prime time shows and MTV. The hard core rock music nowadays fanned the flames of sexual desires. Most of the parents do not know what kind of music their children are listening. If they care, and listen to hard rock songs, they will know what they are singing some of these songs that have pornographic words and sentences which made Kandy Stroud, a former rock fan, beg parents to stop their children from listening to what she calls "Pornographic Rock". Music affects our mood by activating Melantonin, the hormone from the pineal gland in the brain which is turned on by darkness, turned off by flashing light. It is the same gland which has been thought to trigger puberty, and affects reproductive cycle, and sex mood.
What Is The True Role Of Parents?For their failures (i.e. teenage pregnancy), the American educators are putting the blame, as usual, on the parents. In fact in Wisconsin and many other states the grandparents of a baby born to a teenager are responsible for the financial support of the child. Remember parents are not needed if their teenage daughter needs contraceptives or abortion. Faced with such hypocrisy, the parents job is to instil in their teenagers mind what is not taught in sex education classes i.e. reason not to engage in sex, reason not to get pregnant etc. At the same time, they should divert their energies to some productive activities like community work, sports, character growth, or Sunday schools. Another role of parents is to help their children make the right decisions. In Islam anything which leads to wrong is also wrong. Therefore parents should control the music children are listening, the TV program they are watching, the magazines they are reading, and the dress (which may provoke the desire in the opposite sex) they are wearing. While group social activity should be permitted within supervision, dating should not be allowed. When American teenagers start dating, sex is on their mind.In fact 25% of college freshman boys during a survey responded by saying that if they have paid for the food, and the girl does not go all the way, they have a right to force her to have sex. Many of the rapes occur at the end of the date and are not reported. Anything which breaks down sexual inhibition and loss of self control i.e. alcohol, drug, petting or just being together for two members of the opposite sex in a secluded place should not be allowed for Muslim teenagers. Kissing and petting is preparing the body for sex. The body can be brought to a point of no return.In summary, the Muslim parents should teach their children that they are different from non-Muslims in their value system and way of life. Having a feeling and love in your heart for someone else of the opposite sex is different and beyond check, while expression of the same through sex is entirely different and should be under control. Muslim children should be told that they don't drink alcohol, eat pork, take drugs, and they don't have to engage in pre-marital sex either.

MASTURBATION SEX POSITION

Masturbation Sex Position - Stretch and Relax :
This position is the antidote for those who tense up and never move during masturbation. Before you begin, lie on your back, and stretch your arms and legs out as far as possible, making your body into an “X” shape. Try to hold the stretch for ten seconds. Do this a few times before you begin masturbating. As you masturbate try to keep your body stretched out as much as is comfortable, think about it as if you are trying to take up as much space on the bed as you can.
Masturbation Sex Position – Knees Bent/Hips Open:
This is a classic position for masturbation. Lie on your back with your feet on your floor and knees bent. Focus on how your hips feel, and the different kinds of hip movements that are comfortable and possible in this position. A variation of this position is to bring your knees close to your chest. This position is all about rocking your hips and opening them up to the energy that is created as you masturbate.
Masturbation Sex Position - On Your Knees:
This may seem like an odd position but that is partly the point. Find a comfortable position on your knees, with a pillow underneath them. Try it with your body upright, as if standing on your knees. Be on your knees but leaning back resting on your calves You can even try to masturbate while on your hands and knees (although you’ll probably have at least one hand occupied, so be careful with your balance). The point is to see how masturbation and orgasm feels, in these different positions.
Masturbation Sex Position - Heels over Head :
Not everyone will be flexible enough for this masturbation sex position, but you can experiment with variations that will work for you. Lie on your back and bring your legs up so that they are pointing to your head. You can keep your legs together or spread them apart, you can bend your knees or keep them straight. In this position you have access not just to your genitals but also your sides, your behind, and your legs. Put a pillow under your hips
Masturbation Sex Position – Half on/Half off:
This position is designed to get you playing with gravity. In this position you want to have part of your body on a flat surface (like a bed or the floor) and another part of your body at a different level. So you might lie on your back near a wall with your legs up on the wall. Or try lying on your stomach at the edge of the bed with your waist and legs off the bed. Or masturbate while sitting up completely straight, so that your upper torso is sitting up and your lower body is lying flat.
Masturbation Sex Position – Dancing on the WallsLie on your back either on bed or the floor, but right by a wall. Position your waist so that your bum is right by the wall, and raise your legs going straight up the wall (it’s like that “bicycle” exercise position). A variation of this is to keep your bum slightly away from the wall and put your feet flat against the wall with your knees bent (so that when you push with your feet you are moving your body away from the wall). This position is another good one for exploring hip movements, and you can experiment with pushing against the wall with your feet as you masturbate.
Masturbation Sex Position - All Curled Up and Nowhere to GoThis position for masturbation is about drawing your body in on itself. You can curl up on your side, on your back, or on your hands and knees. In each position your genitals are still exposed and it’s easiest to use a sex toy for masturbating in these positions. You may not notice much while masturbating in this position, but once you’ve finished, stretch out, and pay close attention to how your body feels.

SEX TIPS FOR THE REST OF US

This week’s sex tip is an answer to a common question I get from people in relationships: How can I teach my sexual partner what works for me? There is a simple and elegant solution to this problem: Masturbate for your partner.
Letting your partner watch you masturbate is like giving them a crash course in where, how, how long and how much they like to be touched. They also get to see you go through your own process of sexual response. Plus it can be incredibly sexy.
Lots of us are shy about being so revealing, but there’s a way to do this that addresses self-consciousness or nervousness. Here’s what you do:
First you need to establish whether this is going to be reciprocal. If you put on a show for them, are they going to put one on for you? Next, get a blindfold. It’s amazing when you put a blindfold on yourself how quickly you can forget that anyone is in the room. When you put on your show, if you’re shy, wear the blindfold. This may seem like a silly idea, but it works.
You may want to set some ground rules. Your partner has to agree that they won’t talk (unless you want them to) and when you’re done they’ll leave the room (unless you ask them to stay) so you can be alone afterward. If there are other things you need to feel comfortable, ask for them beforehand and make sure you’re both OK with it.
Tell your partner you’ll go into a room and they should wait five minutes before coming in. Then go into the room, get undressed, put on a blindfold, and start masturbaTION If you’re used to masturbating you’ll probably find at some point that you stop thinking about the fact that your partner is watching (or you may find it a turn-on knowing they are watching).
Once you’re done, it can be interesting to ask your partner to talk about what they noticed. Often we do things physically when we masturbate that we are unaware of, and having your partner watch can be an education for you too. If they notice things or ask questions about why you moved a certain way or where you were touching yourself, it’s a perfect time to talk about how and where you like to be touched.
This one-person show isn’t meant to tell your partner the only way they can or should touch you. And it doesn’t mean you don’t want them to try new things either. But revealing yourself masturbating to a partner can be both an erotic and intimate experience that goes a long way to deepening your sexual connection.
As always, try to have fun!

SOME TIPS TO CONSIDER

Negotiating safe sex is not always easy

. Here are a few tips that may help.
Have condoms handy if you think there is a possibility that you will be having sex.
Don’t assume that safe sex is the man’s responsibility. Women can carry condoms too.
Don’t assume that a man will feel confident about using condoms. Learn about how they are used correctly so you can help. This can be fun.
Make it your business to find out about condoms. Investigate colours and flavours.
Find out where you can get condoms without embarrassment.
Try to negotiate safe sex before you get into the ‘heat of the moment’. This is usually not the best time for debate and discussion.
=Some things you could sayThink up some statements that you feel comfortable using, for example:
‘Where’s the condom?’
‘Let’s have safe sex to protect both of us.’
‘I can roll the condom onto you with my mouth.’ Make sure you can.
‘To make sure I don’t get pregnant, I like to use condoms.’What to do if you are exposed to body fluidsIf you are exposed to body fluids, you should wash the skin or area thoroughly with soap and water. Don’t use a douche in the vagina or rectum as this can irritate the area and increase the risk of HIV transmission. See your doctor for further information and advice. Post exposure prophylaxis (PEP) is a month-long course of medication for people who have been exposed to the HIV virus. To be most effective, it should be started within 72 hours of exposure. It is best to start as early as possible after exposure. These drugs can be toxic on the body with unpleasant side effects such as vomiting, nausea and lethargy. PEP is not an alternative to safe sex. If you think you have been exposed to HIV or think you need help, call 1800 889 887. This is a 24-hour telephone service.Clothes, bedding or other material can be washed in water and detergent or dry-cleaned.Don’t share toothbrushes or razorsEveryday household contact doesn’t transmit the HIV virus, but the intimacy of a sexual relationship means that lovers tend to share personal items, which can be a risk. A serodiscordant couple should avoid sharing toothbrushes, razors or any other personal item (including injecting equipment) that could have come in contact with blood.

HIV AND WOMAN

HIV and women - safe sex
In Australia, the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) is most commonly spread through unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with an infected person. Describing a couple as ‘serodiscordant’ means that one partner is HIV positive and the other is not. This can raise a number of issues, such as how to have sex safely. Finding out more about what is safe, talking to others with experience or talking with a counsellor may be helpful. This article offers general information, but also talk with your doctor or AIDS organisation.Safe sex suggestionsHIV is transmitted by body fluids including blood, ejaculate (cum), pre-ejaculate (pre-cum), female genital fluids (both vaginal and cervical fluid) and breast milk. The way the virus gains entry to another person may be directly across the mucosa (the lining of the vagina or bowel) or into the bloodstream. HIV can also pass from mother to baby during pregnancy or birth, or via breast milk.It is important to prevent the transfer of these body fluids, whether the woman or her partner is HIV positive. Be guided by your doctor or health worker, but safe sex suggestions include:
Kissing, cuddling, masturbation, mutual masturbation, massage, and ejaculating or urinating on unbroken skin are considered safe activities.
Always wear a condom and use a water based lubricant when having vaginal or anal sex.
The woman may prefer to wear a female condom that is inserted into the vagina.
Pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) of an HIV positive man may transmit the virus, so don’t rely on the withdrawal method.
Oral sex with either a man or woman is considered a ‘low risk’ activity for transmission of HIV. However the risk increases when people have cuts or sores in their mouth or on their lips, or have recently brushed their teeth and gums or flossed their teeth. For extra safety, people may choose to use a condom during oral sex performed on the man, or a dental dam or similar protection (such as clear plastic cling wrap – but not the ‘microwave safe’ variety which has tiny holes in it) during oral sex performed on the woman.
Avoid penetration of the vagina or anus with finger or fist if there are abrasions on the hand or arm – to be sure, wear a latex glove and use lots of water based lubricant.
Don’t share penetrative sex toys such as dildos – consider having a separate collection for each partner, covering them with a new condom each time they are used, or washing them thoroughly in warm soapy water between partners.
Lesbian serodiscordant couples should also follow these safer sex suggestions.

basic spooning sex position

Basic Spooning Sex Positions:
Lying on your side you are facing away from your partner (if you’re the one being penetrated) or facing your partners back (if you’re doing the penetrating). Usually there will be some overlapping of arms and legs in this position.
Variations of Spooning Positions:
If you like the idea of this position, think about how it will be most comfortable for you.
If you are penetrating your partner, you might want to be lower down then them on the bed. Use your hands and arms to spread apart or lift up one of their legs. In another variation, the partner being penetrated can curl up a bit, exposing their bum and/or vagina. The “scissors” position is another variation on side-by-side.
illustrated spooning sex positions.
Pros of Spooning Sex Positions:
This position offers a lot of physical contact for the person doing the penetrating.
For people with hip problems this position can be very comfortable and allow for longer, slower penetration.
Cons of Spooning Sex Positions:
This position does not allow for a lot of leverage for thrusting and both partners may feel like they have less movement .

SEX POSITION TIPS

The most obvious (but not the only) part of a sex position is the actual physical position your body is in. There are thousands of positions we can put our body into. Standing, kneeling, curled up in a fetal position, sitting with our legs spread open, with our legs crossed, squatting, etc… Most of the time, people who live with pain and chronic conditions (whether it’s chronic back pain, asthma, arthritis, or a broken arm that won’t heal for 8 weeks) can still find sex positions that will work for them and won’t increase their pain. Some sex positions, like SEX POSITION are defined by the physical position you choose. Other sex positions will work regardless of the physical position of your body.
Think about positions that you like when you aren’t having sex. How are you most comfortable, and what physical positions and postures make you feel sexy, or strong, or submissive. Having intercourse with your partner while they are all curled up in a ball is very different than when they are writhing on top of you arms up in the air. Both can be great, depending on the people. Think about what positions and postures you like, and a few you think you might want to try.