SEX TIPS FOR THE REST OF US

This week’s sex tip is an answer to a common question I get from people in relationships: How can I teach my sexual partner what works for me? There is a simple and elegant solution to this problem: Masturbate for your partner.
Letting your partner watch you masturbate is like giving them a crash course in where, how, how long and how much they like to be touched. They also get to see you go through your own process of sexual response. Plus it can be incredibly sexy.
Lots of us are shy about being so revealing, but there’s a way to do this that addresses self-consciousness or nervousness. Here’s what you do:
First you need to establish whether this is going to be reciprocal. If you put on a show for them, are they going to put one on for you? Next, get a blindfold. It’s amazing when you put a blindfold on yourself how quickly you can forget that anyone is in the room. When you put on your show, if you’re shy, wear the blindfold. This may seem like a silly idea, but it works.
You may want to set some ground rules. Your partner has to agree that they won’t talk (unless you want them to) and when you’re done they’ll leave the room (unless you ask them to stay) so you can be alone afterward. If there are other things you need to feel comfortable, ask for them beforehand and make sure you’re both OK with it.
Tell your partner you’ll go into a room and they should wait five minutes before coming in. Then go into the room, get undressed, put on a blindfold, and start masturbaTION If you’re used to masturbating you’ll probably find at some point that you stop thinking about the fact that your partner is watching (or you may find it a turn-on knowing they are watching).
Once you’re done, it can be interesting to ask your partner to talk about what they noticed. Often we do things physically when we masturbate that we are unaware of, and having your partner watch can be an education for you too. If they notice things or ask questions about why you moved a certain way or where you were touching yourself, it’s a perfect time to talk about how and where you like to be touched.
This one-person show isn’t meant to tell your partner the only way they can or should touch you. And it doesn’t mean you don’t want them to try new things either. But revealing yourself masturbating to a partner can be both an erotic and intimate experience that goes a long way to deepening your sexual connection.
As always, try to have fun!