Relationships are built around friendship, commitment and trust. However, an "extra-marital/relationship" liaison (a.k.a. cheating or "a having a bit on the side") is an option that many people have at least considered during the course of any relationship. The idea of cheating presents something enticing - it offers excitement and trouble all at the same time. Unfortunately for many, getting caught is almost inevitable and can become the beginning-of-the-end for the relationship.
Rule 1: Keep track of your lies
Nothing will ruin the "art" of cheating more than not knowing which lies go with which situation. Forgetting that you were supposed to go and get milk, and instead come back with a sweat-soaked shirt and an excuse you used last week, leaves your spouse to think you were getting "other" sources of protein.
Bachelors Degree Tip: Have your deceptions set up before you go on your booty call.
Masters Degree Tip: Have props to support your lies, it is the best way to turn your suspicious partner into an apologetic fool.
Rule 2: Keep your lies to a minimum
The most successful cheaters are always on top of their devious adventures because they keep them as simple as possible. Telling your significant other that you need to help your manager plan next quarter's market analysis provides you with that window of opportunity for that weekend hook-up. However, DO NOT add lies on top of lies. Telling your spouse that you are working on the company's market analysis every Saturday afternoon followed by extra public relations work in the evening will have him or her asking questions about everything you did that day. Adding lies on top of lies will get you in trouble - and it will leave you with no one to blame but yourself!
Bachelors Degree Tip: Use simple lies that cannot be verified.
Masters Degree Tip: Preferably get around their questions without even having to tell an out-and-out lie... just try and bend the truth a little.
Rule 3: Do NOT tell your friends
Even though they will always say, "I won't tell anyone", putting a friend in the position to screw up your relationship is the worst thing you could do. Anybody who has juicy gossip is going to fumble the ball sooner or later. After they have had a drink or two – read “sooner” rather than "later"!
Rule 4: Do NOT Cheat with your partner's friend
This one should be a no-brainer to even the most dedicated cheater! This will almost certainly ruin their friendship – and will very likely ruin ALL your relationships. This is a very difficult situation to hide and is simply JUST NOT WORTH IT!!
Rule 5: Keep yourself clean
Always be prepared to have the cleaning products needed to keep you from getting caught. A quick shower after an entanglement is highly recommended. Perfume or cologne should be used to disguise any smell, but try not to overdo it; smelling like you just fell in a vat of Chanel can be more of a give-away than a help. As well, make sure to check for male/female hair on your clothes. Finally, do not keep your booty call's underwear in your glove compartment … or you are just asking to get caught.
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Friday, July 10, 2009
Thursday, July 9, 2009
THE ROLE OF PARENTS AND MUSLIMS IN SEX EDUCATION
The Role Of Parents and Muslim Organisations For their failures
(i.e. teenage pregnancy), the American educators are putting the blame, as usual, on the parents. In fact in Wisconsin and many other states the grandparents of a baby born to a teenager are responsible for the financial support of the child. Remember parents are not needed if their teenage daughter needs contraceptives or abortion. Faced with such hypocrisy, the parents job is to instill in their teenagers mind what is not taught in sex education classes i.e. reason not to engage in sex, reason not to get pregnant etc. At the same time, they should divert their energies to some productive activities like community work, sports, character growth, or Sunday schools. Another role of parents is to help their children make the right decisions. In Islam anything which leads to wrong is also wrong. Therefore parents should control the music children are listening, the TV program they are watching, the magazines they are reading, and the dress (which may provoke the desire in the opposite sex) they are wearing. While group social activity should be permitted within supervision, dating should not be allowed. When American teenagers start dating, sex is on their mind.In fact 25% of college freshman boys during a survey responded by saying that if they have paid for the food, and the girl does not go all the way, they have a right to force her to have sex. Many of the rapes occur at the end of the date and are not reported. Anything which breaks down sexual inhibition and loss of self control i.e. alcohol, drug, petting or just being together for two members of the opposite sex in a secluded place should not be allowed for Muslim teenagers. Kissing and petting is preparing the body for sex. The body can be brought to a point of no return.In summary, the Muslim parents should teach their children that they are different from non-Muslims in their value system and way of life. Having a feeling and love in your heart for someone else of the opposite sex is different and beyond check, while expression of the same through sex is entirely different and should be under control. Muslim children should be told that they don't drink alcohol, eat pork, take drugs, and they don't have to engage in pre-marital sex either. I am not proposing that all Muslim youth be married at age 16. But I must say that youth should accept the biological instinct and make decisions which will help a more satisfied life devoted to the career rather than spending time in chasing (or dreaming about) the opposite sex. Parents should help their sons and daughters in selection of their mate using Islamic practice as a criteria and not the race, color or wealth. They should encourage them to know each other in a supervised setting.
To provide a platform for boys and girls to see and know each other without any intimacy.
Offer premarital educational courses to boys and girls over 18, separately to prepare them for the role of father and husband and of mother and wife.
The father has a special role, mentioned by Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) "one who is given by God, a child, should give it a beautiful name, should give him or her education, and training and when he or she attains puberty, she should see to it that he or she is married. If the father does not arrange their marriage after puberty, and the boy or girl is involved in sin, the responsibility of that sin will lie with the father".[Reported in Mishkat, page 271]. Islamic sex education should be taught at home, starting at an early age. Before giving education about the anatomy and physiology, the belief in the Creator should be well established. As Destoevsky puts it "without God everything, is possible" meaning that the lack of belief or awareness of God gives an okay for wrong doing".The father should teach the son and mother should teach her daughter. In the absence of a willing parent, the next best choice should be a Muslim male teacher (preferably a physician) for boys and a Muslim female teacher (a nurse or physician) for a girl at the Sunday Islamic school.
(i.e. teenage pregnancy), the American educators are putting the blame, as usual, on the parents. In fact in Wisconsin and many other states the grandparents of a baby born to a teenager are responsible for the financial support of the child. Remember parents are not needed if their teenage daughter needs contraceptives or abortion. Faced with such hypocrisy, the parents job is to instill in their teenagers mind what is not taught in sex education classes i.e. reason not to engage in sex, reason not to get pregnant etc. At the same time, they should divert their energies to some productive activities like community work, sports, character growth, or Sunday schools. Another role of parents is to help their children make the right decisions. In Islam anything which leads to wrong is also wrong. Therefore parents should control the music children are listening, the TV program they are watching, the magazines they are reading, and the dress (which may provoke the desire in the opposite sex) they are wearing. While group social activity should be permitted within supervision, dating should not be allowed. When American teenagers start dating, sex is on their mind.In fact 25% of college freshman boys during a survey responded by saying that if they have paid for the food, and the girl does not go all the way, they have a right to force her to have sex. Many of the rapes occur at the end of the date and are not reported. Anything which breaks down sexual inhibition and loss of self control i.e. alcohol, drug, petting or just being together for two members of the opposite sex in a secluded place should not be allowed for Muslim teenagers. Kissing and petting is preparing the body for sex. The body can be brought to a point of no return.In summary, the Muslim parents should teach their children that they are different from non-Muslims in their value system and way of life. Having a feeling and love in your heart for someone else of the opposite sex is different and beyond check, while expression of the same through sex is entirely different and should be under control. Muslim children should be told that they don't drink alcohol, eat pork, take drugs, and they don't have to engage in pre-marital sex either. I am not proposing that all Muslim youth be married at age 16. But I must say that youth should accept the biological instinct and make decisions which will help a more satisfied life devoted to the career rather than spending time in chasing (or dreaming about) the opposite sex. Parents should help their sons and daughters in selection of their mate using Islamic practice as a criteria and not the race, color or wealth. They should encourage them to know each other in a supervised setting.
To provide a platform for boys and girls to see and know each other without any intimacy.
Offer premarital educational courses to boys and girls over 18, separately to prepare them for the role of father and husband and of mother and wife.
The father has a special role, mentioned by Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) "one who is given by God, a child, should give it a beautiful name, should give him or her education, and training and when he or she attains puberty, she should see to it that he or she is married. If the father does not arrange their marriage after puberty, and the boy or girl is involved in sin, the responsibility of that sin will lie with the father".[Reported in Mishkat, page 271]. Islamic sex education should be taught at home, starting at an early age. Before giving education about the anatomy and physiology, the belief in the Creator should be well established. As Destoevsky puts it "without God everything, is possible" meaning that the lack of belief or awareness of God gives an okay for wrong doing".The father should teach the son and mother should teach her daughter. In the absence of a willing parent, the next best choice should be a Muslim male teacher (preferably a physician) for boys and a Muslim female teacher (a nurse or physician) for a girl at the Sunday Islamic school.
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