SOME TIPS TO CONSIDER

Negotiating safe sex is not always easy

. Here are a few tips that may help.
Have condoms handy if you think there is a possibility that you will be having sex.
Don’t assume that safe sex is the man’s responsibility. Women can carry condoms too.
Don’t assume that a man will feel confident about using condoms. Learn about how they are used correctly so you can help. This can be fun.
Make it your business to find out about condoms. Investigate colours and flavours.
Find out where you can get condoms without embarrassment.
Try to negotiate safe sex before you get into the ‘heat of the moment’. This is usually not the best time for debate and discussion.
=Some things you could sayThink up some statements that you feel comfortable using, for example:
‘Where’s the condom?’
‘Let’s have safe sex to protect both of us.’
‘I can roll the condom onto you with my mouth.’ Make sure you can.
‘To make sure I don’t get pregnant, I like to use condoms.’What to do if you are exposed to body fluidsIf you are exposed to body fluids, you should wash the skin or area thoroughly with soap and water. Don’t use a douche in the vagina or rectum as this can irritate the area and increase the risk of HIV transmission. See your doctor for further information and advice. Post exposure prophylaxis (PEP) is a month-long course of medication for people who have been exposed to the HIV virus. To be most effective, it should be started within 72 hours of exposure. It is best to start as early as possible after exposure. These drugs can be toxic on the body with unpleasant side effects such as vomiting, nausea and lethargy. PEP is not an alternative to safe sex. If you think you have been exposed to HIV or think you need help, call 1800 889 887. This is a 24-hour telephone service.Clothes, bedding or other material can be washed in water and detergent or dry-cleaned.Don’t share toothbrushes or razorsEveryday household contact doesn’t transmit the HIV virus, but the intimacy of a sexual relationship means that lovers tend to share personal items, which can be a risk. A serodiscordant couple should avoid sharing toothbrushes, razors or any other personal item (including injecting equipment) that could have come in contact with blood.